Chasing almost never feels like chasing while you are doing it. It feels like explaining. So start with a count, not a feeling: scroll up to the last thing he said, and count what came after it.
If he said 1 thing and the other 3 were yours, that is the chasing. It is not about how much you feel. It is about how many times you said it.
Free to try. We never store your chats.
"How to stop chasing a guy" gets you rules. Be less available. Wait longer. Make him come to you. They are written for a man with nobody attached, and they promise a result that nobody can promise about a real person.
They also skip the useful question. Is he pulling away, or is he carrying something and going quiet the way he always does? Those need different things from you, and a rule cannot tell them apart.
Here is what a lot of threads look like:
He said 1 thing. The other 3 were yours. And the last one takes back the one before it, so now he has a question and an apology for the question sitting on his screen together.
Then look further back. The last time he went quiet like this, what happened? Did he come back on his own? Did he used to say when he would be back, like talk tomorrow, and lately he does not? That change tells you more than any rule about how available to be.
What he said last. "Maybe later" after a rough week is not a no. It is him keeping the door on his side. Every message you send after it pulls the door back to yours.
Whether this is new for him. If he always goes quiet when something is weighing on him, and always comes back, then this is his normal and your 3 messages are the only new thing in the thread. If he used to answer and now does not, that is a real change, and more messages will not change it back.
What your messages are doing. Being warm is not too available. Asking a question that only he can end is. "Did i do something?" hands him your evening. There is more on that in how not to sound desperate.
If the last 3 messages in the thread are yours, the honest answer is usually nothing yet. Not to make him miss you. Just because the next message belongs to him, and a 4th one from you says the same thing again in more words.
If it has been days, and you want to send something anyway, send 1 message about something else. Not about the gap, not about what he is feeling. Something he could answer in 6 words, or not answer, without it costing either of you. Something like: hope the week got lighter. that ramen place reopened btw
That does 3 things. It does not ask him to explain the silence. It does not repeat "i'm here whenever", which he already has. And it leaves the next move with him, which is the part you have been taking away from him. For when a second text helps and when it does not, see is double texting bad.
If your last message already took back the one before it, sending nothing today is the better move. Another one now is a 4th message about 1 unanswered "maybe later".
That is not you giving up and it is not a tactic. It is how to stop double texting him without having to act cold: you just stop saying the same thing again. If he has asked for space, blocked you, or told you to stop contacting him, that is the answer, and the move is not to find another way to reach him.
You paste the conversation and it reads the silence against him rather than against a rule — what he said last, how many messages have gone out since, how he has gone quiet before, and what has changed lately.
Then it writes the reply back in 4 tones, and tells you if the better move today is to wait instead of sending anything.
Try it on your conversation